Shaky beginning

Let me first confess. I picked up the term 'shaky beginning', thanks to the innumerable (human beings are by nature exaggerative or is it selective amnesia?) music reality shows that I watch. The judges often say that the beginning was shaky as you did not let the chord or the sur seep in properly. Cut to the movie I watched yesterday. It was a simple film on the usual mother-in-law daughter-in-law saga. How the m-in-l gets insecure over the entry of d-in-l. The reason why I have given these references are because if we keenly observe there is a lot of similarity in both of them. In every relationship, apart from the ones we are born with, the beginning is more often than not shaky. It is impossible for anyone of us to say that we have not been through rough patches or turbulent times in our relationships. Then what is it that helps us sail through in some cases, whereas drown us in some.
You may say that why am I referring only to the relationships, when this law is applicable in every move that we make. Here is where the film comes into play. Career, work, friends – all these are the things where we are okay with making compromises. Coz, they are according to us our valued accomplishments. In stark contrast, it is the relationships which we believe are trivial, fickle and consequently breakable.
Coming back to the question. What protects us in some cases and does not help us in others? It is undoubtedly the will to not let it go. The very desire of making an effort to prevent our ship from sinking. There are times when the waves are extremely precarious to flounder. At an instance such as this, it is always advisable to halt. The waves may seem like they are willing to swallow you, you may be petrified, and wanting to give up, but you can always remember that this too shall pass. For some tides may take time to pacify. These are things which are at times beyond one's control. But that does not imply that they are indomitable. They too can be conquered over if one 'wants' to. And honestly, the joy and the elation on emerging triumphant from this wave are unprecedented.
So, now you know, that it is in this wanting that lies the key.
And as they say, there is no limit to wanting.
So, best luck.

Manjiri